October 11, 2014: Day 26 – Life Without… (40 Days of Writing Challenge)

I could not think of anything for this topic outside of life without my Dad. Here’s something a friend sent me just after my Dad passed away:

Monday August 26, 2013

Remembering the Dead

When we lose a dear friend, someone we have loved deeply, we are left with a grief that can paralyse us emotionally for a long time. People we love become part of us. Our thinking, feeling and acting are codetermined by them: Our fathers, our mothers, our husbands, our wives, our lovers, our children, our friends … they are all living in our hearts. When they die a part of us has to die too. That is what grief is about: It is that slow and painful departure of someone who has become an intimate part of us. When Christmas, the new year, a birthday or anniversary comes, we feel deeply the absence of our beloved companion. We sometimes have to live at least a whole year before our hearts have fully said good-bye and the pain of our grief recedes. But as we let go of them they become part of our “members” and as we “re-member” them, they become our guides on our spiritual journey.

– Henri Nouwen

I decided the best way to articulate starting to let go and re-member my Dad is by writing a letter. Here it is and it’s me and it’s honest.




One thought on “October 11, 2014: Day 26 – Life Without… (40 Days of Writing Challenge)

  1. That is beautiful.
    Beautiful that you had 30 years, beautiful that have hope for reuniting and knowing that ‘here’ is not all that is..
    Beautiful that you had an Christ-like example to follow…and most beautiful that your faith has you leaning on the Father – creator of all there is.

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